Dave H. Recovery—The Blog
Expectations—they’re all in your head
There’s an old saying that “An expectation is a planned resentment.” You could substitute “planned disappointment” just as well. I have my own definition for the purposes of dealing with unmet needs in a relationship. Expectations are (often) unspoken, one-sided agreements that cannot be satisfied by another person.
It’s control*
Most people are capable of learning from their mistakes, but we want to “save them the trouble.” denying them the decision-making, consequences and experience essential to growth.
The To-Be List and the Ta-Da List
Reframing my story is seeing the journey for what it is. RECOVERY of true self, and roadmapping a better life one day at a time.
No Is A Complete Sentence
You don't have to explain yourself. You don't have to soften it with a long story about why you're busy. You have the right to say no. No is a complete sentence.
Trying To Get The Perfect Snapshot
We're so busy looking at snapshots that we're missing the live stream called our own life, already in progress.
You're Exhausted — And That Makes Sense
The monitoring, the anticipating, the bracing for the next thing — all of it adds up. Here's what most people don't realize: this exhaustion shows up no matter what.